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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

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i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

Freddo

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

It is a long thread so I don't expect you to have read every post, but I can assure you that as the thread continued it got LESS panicky.

Also within 15 mins I removed any mention of financial assistance and got rid of the link. I would have edited the post and removed it completely if I could. I regret it very much.

You have to bear in mind that I have been going through the biggest life-changing situation in my entire life. I want to be free and for me the only way to do that is to move away hence the panic.

And yes, I guess I was dependent on the JW's. It is all I have known. I was completely immersed in the entire thing from birth.

The though of losing that network and being on my own does scare me. But I can see that others have been through the same thing so it has given me hope and realised that there are options open to me.

I have been doing a lot of research on this site and it has helped me to re-evaluate things and see that I have more options.

That is why I want to start a new thread and new profile so that the waters don't get muddied any more and I don't have to go over the same ground, just as I am doing here.

Thanks again

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

Hi

Thank you very much to everybody who has left a helpful and supportive message. I can't thank you enough.

Yesterday was a bad day for me and my biggest regret was approach this forum the way that I did. I was literally panicking and at my wits end.

In the cold light of day and after reading the messages of brave people who have managed to leave the JW's, I am ashamed and embarrassed by my post. No wonder, some members have been hard on me.

A lot of my messages have been missed by some members who are calling me a troll or a scammer. Throughout the whole thread i apologised profusely and did all I could to rectify the situation.

I want to start again on this forum, because what I have learnt in less than 24 hours has been like an unveiling for me after a lifetime of being institutionalised. I wish I had visited here a long time ago.

Let me start again.

Is there a way that I can change my username to something less dramatic and more positive?

If not, then I will register again using a new name but for transparency's sake I will state in my first new post who I am so that people don't think I am trying to scam anybody.

I just need to address some issues:

1. Lack of information means I am a troll

I understand the concern. The main core of my situation is true. My vagueness of the details is not due to trying to scam anybody but because it took me a lot of courage to come here as any ex-JW knows after being repeatedly being warned about any site other than JW.org.

Also, I was wary because we are such a close-knit community. it wouldn't take too long for somebody to work out who I am if they wanted to. It does not take long for any JW to make a connection and know somebody in another congregation.

I accept that if I can going to receive the advice I need I need to be more transparent, so I will try to be although some of the comments here have made me realise it is not an entirely friendly and safe place.

2. I don't use the right terminology so I must be a troll.

This is laughable. I was brought up as a JW since being a baby. Most people I know still call the congregation overseer the P.O. (presiding overseer) and use the old terms. The amount of elders that still use the term "the society" even though we were told not to at the elders training school. That is not an indicator of me being a troll. I used the term watchtower conductor because most people know that is even if they haven't been to the meetings for years.

As I have said, so many times, I am truly sorry for the clumsy start. I genuinely want to put things right because right now I need all the advice I can get.

I'd rather start a new thread if I can and start again.

Once again, thank you to the ones who took the time to give in-depth posts of advice and for the private messages pointing me in the right direction.

I will personally thank each and every one of you via PM.

Kind regards

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

You should accept Jookbeard's offer of meeting up for a chat. He's been around here a while, he's a good guy.

He wasn't being helpful ....he was being sarcastic and mocking the mistake that I made. Perhaps not quite such a good guy after all

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

hey S&L seeing you are in the UK perhaps we could meet up, I live in London, I'll give you your cash personally! let me know the time

Why are you doing that?

it took a lot of courage for me to visit this forum. After having it drummed into me for years about Avoiding apostasy to finally visit and post on a forum like this is a big deal.

I made a terrible error in my early post and I couldn't be more sorry and I put it right but your comments as well as the other sarcastic ones from other members are not helping.

Things are bad enough for me without comments from people like you who are supposed to be on my side.

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

I had a feeling this was a troll by the daft username, by the way Scared and Lonely I am very rich as I won the national lottery twice in successive months, the first win was £10 million and the last win was only £5 million so hopefully I might win it again soon, if you would some cash name the amount and I'd be only too pleased to wire it to you, will £1million be okay?

Is there really any need for that reply?

Perhaps my username is daft but it expresses how I feel on such a life changing situation. I AM scared. I AM lonely.

if you took the time to read my replies you can see how apologetic I was and what I'm trying to do with my life.

Things are hard enough as it is without reading sarcastic comments like that.

I have been told to 'grow a pair' more than once on this forum. It seems that life on the outside is going to be as hard as I thought it would be with attitudes like yours.

I really don't need unhelpful comments like that especially from people who are meant to be on my side.

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

I'm reading through the replies and am so grateful for the practical advice and support. It's just after 11pm here in UK and I have a 5 am start so will reply in full tomorrow once I've finished work.

thank you for giving me perspective. I appreciate it

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

People here are more than willing to extend sympathy and practical advice, but surely you realize how squiggy it looks if you ask for money on your 2nd post?

Yes I do. It was a huge mistake and I regretted it instantly and corrected it. (in fairness it was to share a link not specifically asking for money on this forum , but a stupid thing to do nonetheless.)

The constructive advice and kindness is much more valuable to me and I have expressed gratitude to everybody who has given me great advice,

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

I don't think that this is the place for me. It was a mistake to come here.

You were an ELDER, but you don't even know how to care for YOURSELF.

Living in your parents' home, doing everything that Mommy and Daddy say.

By what right did you provide counsel to anyone, you man-child?

Move into a homeless shelter operated by a "wicked" Church of Xtiandom, or move under a bridge.

No sympathy for sad-sack castratos here, pal! Return to your VOMIT!

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I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

by scared and lonely in

i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

scared and lonely

Is that the only constructive advice you have to offer Sparrowdown?

You have no idea what a huge life changing thing this is going to be for me. I will literally have nothing,